Poor Perception

I absolutely love the fact that women today are speaking out against society’s demands that we must all be pin-thin, curve-less, unhealthy twigs.  The idea that being a size 2 is okay, 0 is ideal, and that 12 is plus size just blows me away.  12 IS PLUS SIZE?!  Crazy.

No doubt, this mentality and perceived standard is damaging.  I can speak from experience – it changed my life.  I’ve experienced dissatisfaction with being 120 pounds.  If only I could get to 118, then I would feel better.  But when I hit 118, suddenly it didn’t satisfy either.  115 became the new 118.  Then 112 was the greener grass.  Then fear struck at 110, and rock bottom came (as well as much needed professional help) at 106.  And all for what?  There are SO many things that are involved in an Eating Disorder (and it’s different from person to person); however, one component is this:  Thinking that I had to fit to some societal standard of thinness in order to be a better, more accepted and ultimately, more attractive person.  What a slough of lies.  Not to mention that my satisfaction won’t be found in size or appearance but in Jesus.  But we’ll save that for another post 🙂

This photo has been going around Facebook recently, and I nearly cheered when I saw it:

Now, let me be clear on this: it’s not about being “hotter”.  It’s about being healthier, and healthy is attractive!  However, this does illustrate my point.  When did skeleton come in vogue?  When did counting ribs become the thing to do?  I understand that some people are naturally thin, but there’s a difference between genetics and restriction.  I think you can tell the difference when you look into one’s eyes.  The naturally thin person has a healthy glow.  The self-starved person has a put-on twinkle which masks a sunken countenance and a deeper emptiness.

From my perspective, there’s a gigantic emphasis on non-self acceptance unless you’re perfect (whatever your image of perfect is).  Flat tummy, tiny thighs, toned arms, button nose…the list goes on.  There’s a great post over on Recovery Bites about actually LOVING our tummies.  Guess what!  If you love something, you accept it.  Love your tummy, accept your tummy.  It’s one step closer to body peace.

Something I’ve learned this school year is that big appetites are okay.  For my sake, let me say that again:


Ordering a hefty meal at a restaurant?  Sure, why not?!  Gleefully finishing it off (and maybe even bragging about it)?  Even better!  My roomies are true blessings when it comes to being examples of this.  Seriously.  (And I wholeheartedly mean that as a compliment.)

See, I used to think that I could/should always/only eat stuff like this:


And something like this might have been too much.


But now, I can sit down and enjoy a healthy meal like this:

And dig into a dessert like this:

Who’s scared of an ice cream cone?  NOT ME!

Matter of fact, I can openly admit…I adore ice cream.  Yay for $1 cones at McD’s!

As a society, our perception has been completely demolished.  So much media supports (in one way or another) the notion that healthy isn’t attractive.  That thin trumps all.  That reaching thinness will solve all your problems and in a sense, be the ultimate nirvana.  To be honest, I still struggle with rejecting this mentality, but God is faithful to bit by bit, heal my mind and my heart.  And I’m so thankful.

Here’s to embracing health and right perception!

What do you think?  Do you feel that media puts undue pressure on thinness?  I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Something I realized while writing this post: I don’t really have any photos of me eating.  Sure, I have pictures of food, and pictures of me WITH food, but I couldn’t find any where I actually was putting food in my mouth.  Be watching for that to change!  And for that recipe I promised the other day…. 🙂






Well hello there!  The snow has finally stopped…and replaced itself with rain.  So things are definitely clearing out around here, but boy-oh-boy is it a slushy mess!  School ended up being closed on Friday as well, so it became a true “snow week”.  I may or may not have forgotten how to do school…

The other day, I saw this Subway commercial:


It’s intended to encourage people to eat healthy, specifically the healthy sandwiches offered at Subway.  But I saw it from a different perspective.

When people take a bite of their burger or other fast food meal, a button pops off their jeans, or their chair breaks.  One fellow’s water bed pops, and another person’s flying button shatters a pot of coffee.  On the surface, it seems harmless, right?  Eating a burger will make you fat, thus causing your buttons to fly and your chair to break…so eat a healthy sandwich instead!  Without trying to read into a silly commercial, however, I think there’s something hiding beneath the surface.

One Eating Disorder thought that I’ve often battled sounds something like this: “If I eat that slice of pizza, I’ll get fat.”  In reality, this is quite silly.  One piece of pizza (or two or three) eaten in one sitting won’t make me fat.  I’d have to eat 3,500 calories ABOVE what I burn in order to gain a pound.  Which, by the way, won’t make me, or anyone else, fat.  But this commercial totally reinforces that notion.  So what do I hear when watching this commercial?

  “One bite of a burger, and your jeans aren’t gonna fit tomorrow!”


I know it’s not true, and I’m far enough into recovery to do an okay job of guarding myself from lies about instant weight gain etc.  But still, it’s almost a subliminal message to the viewer…on the outside they’re laughing.  I mean, these people do look slightly funny.  But internally, maybe even subconsciously, it could be a different story.

I worry about young people seeing this commercial.  Eating Disorders are becoming more prevalent at younger ages.  Commercials like this can’t be helping.

What do you think?  Are commercials like this more helpful or more hurtful?  I’d love to hear your thoughts! 🙂

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Take care!


**As a note, I don’t mean this post to be a bash on Subway – this commercial just happens to illustrate a point.