It’s been a long time since my last post. A really long time.
There’s a lot that I can blame/attribute this to: graduating, beginning a new job, planning my wedding…I haven’t exactly been lazy 🙂 And when I’m home, I’m tired and lack motivation to write. But what it really comes down to? Lack of inspiration.
I haven’t had that burning desire to share anything lately – and the few times that I’ve thought about something I could write, I’m either too busy or too exhausted to actually write. But when God inspires you to do something (like write a blog), He may give you a break, but He won’t let you forget it altogether. And He doesn’t hesitate to remind us of these things in the most unexpected.
It was in a conversation with my former band teacher (now my colleague!), that I found a renewed sense of inspiration. She had complimented me a couple of times earlier that day on how good I looked, and this eventually led to conversations about body image, eating disorders, etc.
We talked about the influence I could have on my students (especially the gals) if I was willing to talk about my struggles with ED. We talked about how women are often insecure about their beauty, but having someone who regularly and sincerely tells you you’re beautiful? It’s no magic bullet for body confidence, but it sure helps. And we talked about how the clothes we wear can dramatically affect our self esteem.
We all have different body types. Each of those body types looks best in different styles of clothes than another. But in our fashion obsessed culture, we so easily forget this. Girls who would look amazing in one style force themselves to wear another, less flattering style, just because it’s “in”. When these clothes don’t flatter, they look in the mirror, and tell themselves something that could be the fatal mistake.
“I look terrible in this.”
And thus, this sweet girl’s self confidence and body acceptance is shot for the day, if not longer. She has blamed her body for the clothes not fitting her a certain way. She has decided that her body must be flawed and that the clothes must be perfect.
But, if this girl would simply change the wording, she might discover all the difference in the world.
“Wow, these clothes look ridiculous on me!”
She has now placed the blame on the clothes for not fitting her body right. Her self confidence and body acceptance are still intact, because rather than labeling her body as flawed, she has identified the clothes as defective…for her.
Do you see this difference? Sometimes, all it takes is a shift in perspective to bring about the beginnings of a shift in our outlook on life – a shift in our body confidence.
Thank you, Mrs. Ulmer, for helping renew my inspiration to write.